If the Road to Hell is paved with Good Intentions, many a soul may have trodden that path and left their imprint on that highway, albeit well-meant but unsuccessful.
To be sure that the arrow hits the target requires follow-through in the same way that a golfer completes a drive down the fairway. The goal is achieved when there is a merging of identities – the archer with the bullseye, the golf swing with the flag, the giver with the receiver.
We may have the desire to help someone, however in order to fully understand how that is best delivered, requires us to ‘walk a mile in their shoes’. We are best equipped to be of service when we identify common ground, usually because we have experienced the same thing ourselves.
Quite often our help can be a hindrance by enabling a victim of their circumstance to continue along the same path. Sometimes ‘tough love’ is needed to change habits and behaviours that keep us stuck.
Parents are constantly put to this test when raising their children. The example they set is what their kids will follow; a mother trying to work out why her baby is crying needs to identify with the child and draw on their own experience to establish the cause.
Donating to charities is an example of a good intention that doesn’t always achieve the desired effect. The follow-through is left to a third party whose purpose may be not-for-profit but only after fat salaries and expenses are paid.
Many of our difficulties are self-inflicted, whether we realise it or not. Life has a unique way of making us confront our fears and failure to rise above them makes it harder to move forward and for negativity to rule our mindset.
Understanding this enables us to be more effective in finding solutions for problems that would otherwise be too difficult to solve. Knowing what is going to work is far preferable to hoping that it will.
While governments play ping-pong with refugees because they don’t want them in their own backyard, an American man and his wife have spent $8 million on a 40 foot boat and twenty staff including doctors, rescuers and supplies to go out and assist those stuck out at sea.
Intent and resolve of this order is what really makes a difference to those in need, actions speaking a thousand times louder than words.
It may be a road less travelled but it leads to a better destination.
Hope we meet up there someday.